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Manage conflicting emotions

Last reviewed on 02 July 2020

You may have felt at times that you’re facing into an impossible situation - knowing you have things to do but feeling unsure about doing them, you may still be feeling like this.

As we take hesitant steps out of lockdown, you may be feeling fine about the changing situation but you could also have days where you don’t feel comfortable.

Keeping you and your loved ones safe is likely your main focus at the moment. Life may have felt impossible sometimes, with wanting to continue to do a great job at work and trying to keep your family as safe as you can. You’ll have faced situations you’d never anticipated and you may be feeling anxious or guilty as a result. This is normal and we’re all experiencing it to some extent. But there are things that we can all do to make us feel that bit better.

Take time to talk

Life’s been really fast paced and intense of late for many of you. Simply getting through each day has probably been an achievement, especially when you think about all of the things you may have had to do to get there – work, cleaning, emotionally and physically supporting loved ones, home schooling – the list is extensive.   But now it’s time to talk. This may feel completely out of your comfort zone but talking can really help put things into perspective and help you process the things you’ve gone through. It’s likely that when you talk to someone you trust that you’ll find that you’ve both experienced similar things.   Without comforting conversations, you could put your mental wellbeing at risk in the long run because storing up memories and feelings that have made you feel sad or uncomfortable may come back and trouble you later on. So please, take time to have a chat with your friends and family, it will really help.

Don’t be afraid to say how you feel

You may feel fine today, but really think about all the feelings you’ve experienced over the last few months. If you bottle up your feelings and don’t talk, it can have a negative effect on your health.

Be brave and think about these things, you could write them down if you don’t feel comfortable to talk about them. If you feel sad, angry, bewildered, anxious, tired – don’t be afraid to say it. A problem shared is often a problem halved. Together we can all help each other recover from the emotional effects of coronavirus. Talking is the first, most powerful step to take.]

What can you do to help your colleagues?

Conversation is key

It’s really important to keep the conversation going at the moment and ensure that colleagues know you are there to speak to, if they want to. Some colleagues won’t feel comfortable to speak about their feelings and this is ok, but it’s really important they know they have the option to.

Reinforce safety

Ensure that your team know about the things we’ve put in place to keep them safe when they are in work and encourage them to raise any concerns, then ensure you act on these.

Check in

Regularly and proactively talk to colleagues about how they are feeling and check in to offer support and encourage additional help where necessary, this will help build trust and make colleagues more likely to confide in you in future.

Share how you’re feeling

Encourage colleagues to talk about their feelings and normalise the feelings they’ve experienced. If you feel comfortable to, share your own experiences and feelings if you feel this is appropriate and helpful to help colleagues open up. The adage a problem shared is a problem halved is often true.